Desire as something sacred
I think that ‘desire’ is perhaps the single most misunderstood concept in the world today, so before I write any more on the subject, I should probably clarify what I mean by ‘desire’. In the context of what I am thinking, desire is more than just sexual longing… Desire is the energy that strives for transcendence. It is the unending quality of yearning that drives us to persevere, regardless.
I am coming to see Desire — the energy that is Desire, not the act of desiring — I am coming to see it as something sacred. I am shifting from an ego-based identification with desire into a more reflective consciousness that permits an appreciation of what is sacred in the mundane world. In learning to see Desire as sacred, there is a transformation in the way I view and experience a lot of things…
Society teaches us that it is wrong to desire, but I’ve realized that all my life I’ve keep my desires too small. Too limited. There is this division in the world, this belief that we have to conquer desire in order to become better people and better the world, that desire is wrong or bad, that it controls us.
What created this ‘division’? The belief that the seeds of suffering lie in the nature of our endless pursuit of our passions. That there is virtue in disengaging ourselves from desire, because desire can lead to obsession. But that is the wrong tactic! Oh, we can try not to come into contact with our desires, we can push them away, we can deny them. But they will be there, pressing at us ever stronger–and that is how they become unhealthy obsessions. It is not that desire should be controlled… it is that what we desire should not be internalized to the point that we cling to it for fear of losing it, or grasp desperately for it when it comes into range.
And so it is that I believe that the separation of the spiritual from the sensual, of the sacred from the experiential, and the enlightening from the erotic, is a mistake.
And so it is that I believe it is important to understand Desire as something sacred, to accept and explore Desire in a love-relationship. I recognize the importance of experiencing desire as something sacred in a relationship that is intimate emotionally, mentally, spiritually and sexually.