Silken on Sex
Explore Your Sexuality With Silken.
Welcome to my site. Here I discuss sexuality and your right, no, responsibility to explore your sexuality. Join me on this journey and find a way to love yourself through your sexuality. I find porn to be utterly boring and would much rather enjoy listening to a man narrate gay audio sex stories. That's a more pleasurable erotic experience for me than to watch people shake their asses on the screen.
A story can capture so many aspects of sex that porn will never be able to mimic. For me sex is more about how it makes you feel and what is going on inside your mind. Here on this blog, I will probably end up writing about anything that comes to mind. If you have any questions, please don't be shy. Click on the Ask Silken link in the main menu.
Below you'll find a listing of a selection of my posts. Use the categories to find other stories you're interested in.
I hope you enjoy the site! Once again, welcome!
-Silken
Authenticity in Porn equals Quality
When I watch a lot of the Big Name porn out there, I find myself wanting to yell at my screen: “Give me something to identify with!” I’ve found myself thinking that there has to be something better than the over-produced movies.
Read MoreThe sensual is spiritual is sexual
There are important links between the spiritual and the sensual and the sexual. I have almost always used the sensual as the entrance to the spiritual: for there are ways that the sensual and the erotic experiences can be transcendent, just as spiritual experiences can be erotic.
Read MoreWhere in the world is Silkenvoice?
I’ve been getting emails from people asking why I haven’t been posting new content to my site and my podcast, hoping I’ve not left all this behind me and moved on.
Read MoreThe Bully and the Bitch
Given the subject matter that I write about, I am continually reminded of how many men out there have submissive sexual tendencies and are looking for a dominant woman. Which is natural, I know.
Read MoreQuestion: Is my fantasy unhealthy?
I received an email from a listener today and I thought I’d share it because this gentleman isn’t as alone as he thinks and I see this as a great opportunity to address a topic that creates a lot of ambivalence and shame in people.
Read MoreMy Darling Whore
A very, very special friend wrote this for me. It is deeply meaningful and quite, quite accurate. It is perhaps the most beautiful thing anyone has ever written to me.
Read MoreCasual Encounter: Laura and Abby
The last four episodes have been about women dominating men so I thought I’d switch things up a little. It’s been a while since I told a story about women making love, and I know how much you love hearing those kinds of juicy details.
Read MoreSimon Says: Use Me
This is another explicit erotic audio story in the FemDom genre. Which means it isn’t for everyone, so do be warned. It involves a woman dominating a male submissive whose kinks are body-worship, cuckoldry, and strap-ons.
Read MoreWai-kinky Adventures
A friend of mine is a Pro-Dom. She’s one of those tiny women with command presence. She could be surrounded by giants and she’d still dwarf them somehow, just by the power of her personality. She told me about her wild & kinky adventures while vacationing in Waikiki recently, and I asked if I could fictionalize some of them.
Read MoreCherry Blossom Massage
This erotic story of lesbian love was inspired by a recent trip to Japan. I bumped into her in my ryokan in Kyoto. I smelled her exotic scent just milliseconds before my sleep-fogged brain registered the ledge I was supposed to step over in order to leave my suite, too late, of course.
Read MoreWine-country Affair
Summer’s end. Time for the grape, both sipping and harvesting. I’ve got this huge extended family here in California–we were here prior to the Gold Rush–and there are miles of vines in one appellation named after a great-great auntie of mine.
Read MoreSummer Reads: The Bitch in the House & The Bastard on the Couch
I’ve been reading “The Bitch in the House” edited by Cathi Hanauer. The subtitle of the book is: 26 Women Tell the Truth about Sex, Solitude, Work, Motherhood, and Marriage. The premise is women writing a response to the question “Why are women angry?”
Read MoreGot Toys? Top 5 toys for women, men & couples
It is fair to say that I’m an enthusiastic masturbator and sex toy aficionado. My primary partner calls me his pervy dirty girl, and fortunately is not threatened by my self-pleasuring practices.
Read MoreHetero Amity
What a painful thing it is to realize that I live in a society that devalues friendship. Especially hetero-sexual friendship. Friendship is a source of love and acceptance and communion. And yet, women are encouraged to see other women as mere competitors, and men as potential providers and mates.
Read MoreHe wanted to be Dominated
The following audio story contains explicit FemDom material intended for adults only. If you are under-age in your area, or if you are one of those people who find erotic humiliation and feminization offensive, please stop listening. Now.
Read MoreDirty Girl: The Preacher’s Kid
She was a preacher’s kid, and like most preacher’s kids, she had a naughty streak, Rebecca did, only her parents didn’t know it. Most people didn’t.
Read MoreQuestion: “You want sex? Now??”
The more stressed I am, the more I want sex. Want it to the point where I can find repeated statements in my journal to the effect that I felt I needed sex. Not comfort, not conversation, not food, not sleep. Sex. Which many people I know consider rather strange. “How can you want sex at a time like this?”
Read MoreQ: Does your face match the Silken Voice?
Does your face match the Silken Voice? Does your quick intellect match the hint of impatience in your stories? What are the colors of your spirit and passion and mind? Does writing soothe the wounds from the slings and arrows of this life?
Read MoreThe Scent of Love
My lover sleeps in the arms of Lethe, sleeps the sleep of orgasmic oblivion, while I engage Insomnia in battle with womanly arts. I am leaning against the teak headboard of my bed.
Read MoreReflections on Integrity and the Human Dilemma
Lately I have been thinking about drive and ambition, purpose and resolve, and the confidence needed to support that resolve, and how integrity fits in there, between the drive of the ego to survive, to thrive, to achieve, and the conscience which tells me that it is of vital importance that I not hurt others in the process of getting what I want.
Read MoreIntimacy, reality, and the illusion of perfection
I watched Good Will Hunting the other night and there is a scene in the movie in which Robin Williams is talking to Will about Will’s reluctance to date Minnie Driver’s character because he is afraid to learn more about her and find out she isn’t perfect after all.
Read MoreThe Forfeit
A woman has talked her partner into masturbating to the edge of orgasm and backing off every day for a three week period, and finally, with the waiting, teasing, and denial over, they consummate their desire–outside, up against a stone wall.
Read MoreThe Hidden Costs (literally) of Health Care
I am coming up on the 2 year anniversary of my 2+ week hospital stay and I've some thoughts regarding health care in these United States. One of the thoughts is that the reform bill that recently passed Congress places restrictions and regulations.
Read MoreMirror, Me
This is an incredibly expressive poem. I think most women will find that his poem touches a chord in them, in the place where our mystery resides, often covered with a veneer of socialized shame.
Read MoreOpposable Thumbs
Because of our opposable thumbs, we human beings have unique capabilities. Our muscled, contrary digits allow us to pull, twist, manipulate, and grip; to use tools, to control, even “civilize” our environment.
Read MoreGirl Toy - A Sybian Story
She’d married straight out of college and divorced shortly before her thirtieth birthday. She readily admitted that she’d married him because she thought he was great in bed. And he was… then. But at 30 he was trying to fuck like he was still 20, and well, he couldn’t pull it off.
Read MoreDirty Girl - The Preacher’s Kid
This is a story-in-progress about a Preacher’s kid who discovers that she is a Dirty Girl. Just a few months ago she was rubbing her mound furiously against the angel’s bent knee, her arms wrapped around his neck for balance, when the Professor found her.
Read MoreAn Andrea Dworkin-inspired Rant
I was fortunate to attend one of the Seven Sisters Colleges, attendance at which would automatically enroll me in the “Feminist Club” in most minds. But when I was at college, I subscribed to Playboy, which raised a few eyebrows and prompted heated discussions on exploitation of women.
Read MoreWhen A Fetish Takes Over
In this episode, Silken answers a question from one of her listeners, Paul, who asked for help in dealing with a fetish that has taken over his sexuality, making it difficult for him to climax during sex with his wife.
Read MoreIt is getting harder for me to cum. Help?
Question: As I’ve gotten older my sexual needs have become more and more specific. I can only cum if the circumstances are just-so (I have a fetish). I can rarely cum when my wife and I have sex and she is taking it personally. Is there something wrong with me?
Read MoreConscious living, conscious dying
Here it is late March. SO far the first quarter of the year has flown by. The trees are leafing out right now. All of a sudden there are tiny green leaves everywhere, competing with the flowers on the magnolia, plum, and cherry trees.
Read MoreAnal sex: Doing it the right way
Question: I tried anal sex with my wife. Once. Apparently we didn’t know what we were doing but based on some things you’ve said in your stories, it can be intensely pleasurable and we’d like to experience that. So, what is the right way to go about it?
Read MoreTips on achieving multiple orgasms
Question: Can you please write something on achieving multiple orgasms? I find that after oral, when I have an orgasm, it’s over. I am over-sensitive and ticklish. Tips please?
Read MoreWhy can’t I come?
Question: You express yourself so eloquently and you describe experiences that are beyond my wildest imaginings. Tame as it may be, my greatest fantasy these days is to achieve orgasm during intercourse. Why can’t I come?
Read MoreTraveling Skirts
I generally wear skirts regardless of whether I am flying or driving, and except in cases of deep snow, regardless of the weather. Most women I know think I’m nuts. But I have my reasons, good reasons.
Read MoreCircumcision: Is there a difference between cut and un-cut?
Question: I’ve only ever been with men who are circumcised. I’ve dated a few who weren’t but we never got as far as sex because there is something about an uncircumcised penis that turns me off. I’ve recently heard from a couple of my girlfriends that they prefer their partners to be ‘intact’. What gives? Is there really a difference between cut and uncut men?
Read MoreMy imaginary friend: The G-Spot
Soon to appear in the Journal of Sexual Medicine is a study involving 1,800 women (900 twins) that found no proof of the G-spot in the women they questioned. Questioned, not even examined.
Read MoreThe First Amendment, Feminists, and Our Christian Nation
I am one of those feminists who often finds herself at odds with other feminists. My mother was an old-school Andrea Dworkin-style lesbian separatist. I went to a women’s college and, well, lets just say that the fact that I subscribed to Playboy raised more than a few eyebrows.
Read MoreI've been wanting to write naughty things
I've been wanting to write. The need to write has been building up like a pressure inside me. Its like sexual frustration, this need. But since mid-November I've been caught up in so many things that I just haven't been able to create the time.
Read MoreThanksgiving 2009
Sometimes I marvel at life, the simplicity of it, the complexity of it. I cradle a changing leaf in my palm, seeing the color variations with eyes, breathless with the beauty of it.
Read MoreAnd so it begins anew
Conversations with My Beloved. Hours spent on the phone. Understandings achieved. Retrospective awareness of the necessity of separation and the unnecessary pain we perpetuated out of our grief. The ending of our relationship was as real a loss as the death of a loved one.
Read MoreBated breath
When my partner and I returned from our month in Japan, it was to a new economic reality. His company's line of credit had been yanked and so they'd closed their doors, and my profession, which conventional wisdom considers recession-proof.
Read MoreAsleep in my lap
He sleeps, his head resting in my lap, as I type this into my iPhone. I've run my fingers through his hair, massaged his scalp, caressed his face. A stressful day for him, and he's come to me for relief.
Read MoreSilken on Sex #45: He Teases Me
In this episode, Silken gives voice to her lover’s teasing… to the way he teases her mind and body in order to arouse her. How he denies her, delays her, until finally, he fulfills her. This podcast is a nice little bonus–she originally recorded it just for him.
Read MoreHe teases me
I like the way he teases me. Correction. I love the way he teases me. How is it that he’s gotten into my mind, learned where the buttons are, the buttons I used to keep well-hidden but now seem to be revealed to him?
Read MoreSilken on Sex #40: PMS and Sexual Aggressiveness
In this episode, Silken gives voice to one woman’s experience of the sexual aggressiveness she experiences when she is PMS-ing. She talks about feeling very Dominant during the days near the end of her cycle, craving the feel of a crop in her hand and a man’s fear making her wet.
Read MoreHealth Care, Again
I’ve made a point of having a conversation on health care at least once a day with someone who disagrees with the need for health care reform. Below is an email I sent to someone after our conversation ended prematurely.
Read MoreMy sister the Ambassador For Life
First was my grandmother’s birthday. She would have been 84, but she died in 1995, of lung cancer. I buried her husband this past January. He also died of lung cancer. And its has been three years since one of my sisters got her initial diagnosis of — yep, lung cancer. She’s been through surgery, radiation, chemo and remission, followed by systemic metastasis that resulted in a terminal “you’ve got weeks to live” diagnosis.\r\n\r\nBut she’s still here. Been through another round of
Read MoreConquered and conquering
One of the people I see is a natural alpha male. He is dominant–and he wants to possess me. He thinks he prefers a quiet, respectful woman. He thinks he wants the woman to be womanly and yielding and submissive, but really, he wants an equal, someone to challenge him, to make him work for it.
Read MoreQuickie intimacy
The sun and the wind conspired to tease me. The sun glowed in a cerulean sky, and its touch on my skin was like a lover’s smile, warming me from the outside in. The wind tickled me, dancing along my skin like my lover’s fingers.
Read MoreWhat happens in Vegas
The sidewalks are shimmering by 9am. The palpable heat rises upwards, forming thermal air currents. The wind blows one way, then another, evoking the experience of a convection oven. If you’re unlucky, it blows your hair about, making it stick to your sweaty forehead.
Read MoreSaturday Afternoon
We were over at a friend’s house, leaning against the stone wall that separated us from a 300 foot drop into the ocean. The sun was shining and the sky was clear of any clouds. If we’d been further inland the temperature would have been in the 80’s, but as it was, the ocean breeze was brisk enough to make me shiver once in a while. He put an arm around me and I nuzzled his neck.
Read MoreOpening the gate to the land of pleasure
Why is it so difficult for me to get my orgasm when I’m with my lover? An online friend asked me almost despairingly. Which got me thinking.
Read MoreDesire as something sacred
I think that ‘desire’ is perhaps the single most misunderstood concept in the world today, so before I write any more on the subject, I should probably clarify what I mean by ‘desire’. In the context of what I am thinking, desire is more than just sexual longing.
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