Silken on Sex
Explore Your Sexuality With Silken.
Welcome to my site. Here I discuss sexuality and your right, no, responsibility to explore your sexuality. Join me on this journey and find a way to love yourself through your sexuality. I find porn to be utterly boring and would much rather enjoy listening to a man narrate gay audio sex stories. That's a more pleasurable erotic experience for me than to watch people shake their asses on the screen.
A story can capture so many aspects of sex that porn will never be able to mimic. For me sex is more about how it makes you feel and what is going on inside your mind. Here on this blog, I will probably end up writing about anything that comes to mind. If you have any questions, please don't be shy. Click on the Ask Silken link in the main menu.
Below you'll find a listing of a selection of my posts. Use the categories to find other stories you're interested in.
I hope you enjoy the site! Once again, welcome!
There are important links between the spiritual and the sensual and the sexual. I have almost always used the sensual as the entrance to the spiritual: for there are ways that the sensual and the erotic experiences can be transcendent, just as spiritual experiences can be erotic.Read More
A friend of mine is a Pro-Dom. She’s one of those tiny women with command presence. She could be surrounded by giants and she’d still dwarf them somehow, just by the power of her personality. She told me about her wild & kinky adventures while vacationing in Waikiki recently, and I asked if I could fictionalize some of them.Read More
This erotic story of lesbian love was inspired by a recent trip to Japan. I bumped into her in my ryokan in Kyoto. I smelled her exotic scent just milliseconds before my sleep-fogged brain registered the ledge I was supposed to step over in order to leave my suite, too late, of course.Read More
I’ve been reading “The Bitch in the House” edited by Cathi Hanauer. The subtitle of the book is: 26 Women Tell the Truth about Sex, Solitude, Work, Motherhood, and Marriage. The premise is women writing a response to the question “Why are women angry?”Read More
What a painful thing it is to realize that I live in a society that devalues friendship. Especially hetero-sexual friendship. Friendship is a source of love and acceptance and communion. And yet, women are encouraged to see other women as mere competitors, and men as potential providers and mates.Read More
The more stressed I am, the more I want sex. Want it to the point where I can find repeated statements in my journal to the effect that I felt I needed sex. Not comfort, not conversation, not food, not sleep. Sex. Which many people I know consider rather strange. “How can you want sex at a time like this?”Read More
Lately I have been thinking about drive and ambition, purpose and resolve, and the confidence needed to support that resolve, and how integrity fits in there, between the drive of the ego to survive, to thrive, to achieve, and the conscience which tells me that it is of vital importance that I not hurt others in the process of getting what I want.Read More
I watched Good Will Hunting the other night and there is a scene in the movie in which Robin Williams is talking to Will about Will’s reluctance to date Minnie Driver’s character because he is afraid to learn more about her and find out she isn’t perfect after all.Read More
I am coming up on the 2 year anniversary of my 2+ week hospital stay and I've some thoughts regarding health care in these United States. One of the thoughts is that the reform bill that recently passed Congress places restrictions and regulations.Read More
She’d married straight out of college and divorced shortly before her thirtieth birthday. She readily admitted that she’d married him because she thought he was great in bed. And he was… then. But at 30 he was trying to fuck like he was still 20, and well, he couldn’t pull it off.Read More
I was fortunate to attend one of the Seven Sisters Colleges, attendance at which would automatically enroll me in the “Feminist Club” in most minds. But when I was at college, I subscribed to Playboy, which raised a few eyebrows and prompted heated discussions on exploitation of women.Read More
Question: As I’ve gotten older my sexual needs have become more and more specific. I can only cum if the circumstances are just-so (I have a fetish). I can rarely cum when my wife and I have sex and she is taking it personally. Is there something wrong with me?Read More
Question: I’ve only ever been with men who are circumcised. I’ve dated a few who weren’t but we never got as far as sex because there is something about an uncircumcised penis that turns me off. I’ve recently heard from a couple of my girlfriends that they prefer their partners to be ‘intact’. What gives? Is there really a difference between cut and uncut men?Read More
I am one of those feminists who often finds herself at odds with other feminists. My mother was an old-school Andrea Dworkin-style lesbian separatist. I went to a women’s college and, well, lets just say that the fact that I subscribed to Playboy raised more than a few eyebrows.Read More
Conversations with My Beloved. Hours spent on the phone. Understandings achieved. Retrospective awareness of the necessity of separation and the unnecessary pain we perpetuated out of our grief. The ending of our relationship was as real a loss as the death of a loved one.Read More
In this episode, Silken gives voice to her lover’s teasing… to the way he teases her mind and body in order to arouse her. How he denies her, delays her, until finally, he fulfills her. This podcast is a nice little bonus–she originally recorded it just for him.Read More
In this episode, Silken gives voice to one woman’s experience of the sexual aggressiveness she experiences when she is PMS-ing. She talks about feeling very Dominant during the days near the end of her cycle, craving the feel of a crop in her hand and a man’s fear making her wet.Read More
First was my grandmother’s birthday. She would have been 84, but she died in 1995, of lung cancer. I buried her husband this past January. He also died of lung cancer. And its has been three years since one of my sisters got her initial diagnosis of — yep, lung cancer. She’s been through surgery, radiation, chemo and remission, followed by systemic metastasis that resulted in a terminal “you’ve got weeks to live” diagnosis.\r\n\r\nBut she’s still here. Been through another round ofRead More
One of the people I see is a natural alpha male. He is dominant–and he wants to possess me. He thinks he prefers a quiet, respectful woman. He thinks he wants the woman to be womanly and yielding and submissive, but really, he wants an equal, someone to challenge him, to make him work for it.Read More
We were over at a friend’s house, leaning against the stone wall that separated us from a 300 foot drop into the ocean. The sun was shining and the sky was clear of any clouds. If we’d been further inland the temperature would have been in the 80’s, but as it was, the ocean breeze was brisk enough to make me shiver once in a while. He put an arm around me and I nuzzled his neck.Read More