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The Scent of Sexual Surrender

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The Scent of Sexual Surrender

Silken on Sex #74: Most of what I write and record is based on personal experiences. Deliciously intense erotic experiences. As I’m writing this now, I’m intoxicated. By wine and other things. Other things? You are probably asking yourself. Yes, other things. Like the fragrance of ‘us’ wafting up from between my thighs. I was puttering around in my vocal booth (for recording audios) when my lover surprised me there. I was on tip-tip toes, my arms spread wide above my head, when his hands closed around my wrists, pressing them down onto a shelf. He pressed himself against me, scraping his shadow along the back of my neck. I moaned. How could I not? There is something about that burning scrape that is so pleasurable that my skin pebbles and I gasp. And moan. And I ground myself back against him, arching my back, wriggling my hips and ass…

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Intimacy, reality, and the illusion of perfection

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Intimacy, reality, and the illusion of perfection

I watched Good Will Hunting the other night and there is a scene in the movie in which Robin Williams is talking to Will about Will’s reluctance to date Minnie Driver’s character because he is afraid to learn more about her and find out she isn’t perfect afterall. The line Robin William’s character said stuck with me. It was something like “I’ve got news for you, sport. You’re not perfect. She’s not either. The question is, are you perfect together? That is what intimacy is all about.” It made me think about love/desire/intimacy and fear. It seems that it is one of the age-old truths about love, that while it does offer unique opportunities for union and the lifting of ego boundaries — at the same time, it faces us with our loved one’s ‘otherness’. That we desire this other, that we yearn for him or her, does not eliminate…

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Is it wrong to want a mistress?

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Is it wrong to want a mistress?

Q: Lately I’ve been struggling with monogomy. My partner is a good man and a considerate lover, but sometimes I want to be with a woman, to enjoy a relationship with a woman. Is it wrong to want a mistress? A: Not at all. One of the fallacies we are socialized to accept as truth is that one person can be all things to another. We find people attractive before we enter a committed relationship, and we will find people attractive afterward. It is unlikely that a single partner can meet all of one’s sexual desires all the time. But more than that, it is about energy. Dyad (monogamous) relationships are often closed systems. The couple gets wrapped up in each other during the NRE (new relationship energy) phase, usually to the exclusion of other people. Which can temporarily heighten that NRE high, but inevitably leads to an energy crash…

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Freeing Persephone: Sexual Healing

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Freeing Persephone: Sexual Healing

Silken on Sex #54: In this episode, Silken talks about the recent popularity of her podcast, then delves into a story she’s been writing.  “The story of Persephone, The Maiden abducted by Hades who became Queen of the Underworld, and her tie to the seasons, to loss and grief and renewal, has been on my mind, and so I’ve been working on an erotic story which I am calling Freeing Persephone. In it, a man tries to comfort his partner, whose erratic behavior and inarticulate grief is trying his patience. Here is an excerpt…” Want more Silkenvoice? Get her AudioSensual CD on iTunes or Amazon.com Visit her Erotic Audio Site: www.SilkenOnSex.com

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Silken on Sex #52: He is Sleeping

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Silken on Sex #52: He is Sleeping

In this episode, Silken describes, in language at once raw and yet refined, awakening with a powerful need for her lover, remembering their lovemaking the night before, evoked by the scent of him rising off her skin. She wants to taste him, breathe him in, paint her love on his skin… but she’ll wait until he wakes up. Or at least she’ll try to…. Want more Silkenvoice? Visit her Erotic Audio Site: www.SilkenOnSex.com Get her AudioSensual CD on iTunes or Amazon.com

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Silken on Sex #49: Angry Sex

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Silken on Sex #49: Angry Sex

In this episode, Silken tells a hot little story about a spat between herself and her lover that turns into an angry-sex encounter. “I wrapped my arms around him, and awash in a flood of endorphins that overpowered the earlier adrenaline, realized that I was no longer angry. Sometimes love looks like war, I thought. Yes. Sometimes, love looks like war.”

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Polyamory: Know Thyself First

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Polyamory: Know Thyself First

Image via Wikipedia Earlier today the friend of a friend sent me an email: “I am currently working on reading the second edition of The Ethical Slut… was wondering if you had any ideas of other books I could read on poly that are any good?” Here is my response: Regarding polyamory and reading material — I’ve not read *any* books on it and very little in the way of online material. I come to polyamory by nurturing — my parents are poly and I lived communally until I was 10 or so. So I can’t really recommend any reading material from personal experience of it. I actually own The Ethical Slut but I’ve not read it. Why? I found myself resisting reading it and after thinking about it, decided that I didn’t want to influence my own innate understanding of it with someone else’s attempt to explain it or…

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