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Silken on Sex #78: It is fair to say that I’m an enthusiastic masturbator and sex toy aficionado. My primary partner calls me his pervy dirty girl, and fortunately is not threatened by my self-pleasuring practices. He knows that my libido is off-the-charts and that it takes a herculean effort on anyone’s part (including my own) to keep me feeling satisfied for more than a few hours at a time. But he does try, and between his efforts and mine, we keep things very interesting. Which is where my chest full of sex toys comes in. I am grateful to be a woman, and grateful that so many people have put so much ingenuity and effort into accessorizing women’s pleasures.  Toys to fulfill our every pleasure, fantasy, and sexual need line the shelves of thousands of adult stores all over the world. And fortunately for men, I’ve noticed that the…

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Spice up your sex life: Talk to your partner

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Spice up your sex life: Talk to your partner

My friends Amy and Boris are having marital problems, mainly around their sex-life. Interestingly enough, Boris is the one who came to me about it, instead of Amy. When asked, he described a pattern of formulaic sex that had dwindled to a once-a-month frequency, at best. He said he’d tried talking to her, had even asked her what he could do to spice things up, and her response was “I shouldn’t have to tell you what I want.” Which blew my mind. Amy was playing the You should read my mind and if you can’t I’ll punish you until you’ve tried everything game that many women play — a game that one of my lovers played so well that I swore off women for years. So I invited Amy to meet me for coffee. We’ve known each other for well over a decade and she’s accustomed to my directness, so…

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Libidinous Celibacy

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Libidinous Celibacy

Silken on Sex #66: Celibacy has been in the news lately, and I don’t just mean the pious form of celibacy. I’m talking grown women and men choosing celibacy as a form of their sexual self-expression. Yes, that’s right: Celibacy is a form of sexual self-expression — it is possible to be celibate without being chaste. (Can you say masturbation boys and girls?) I am an advocate of the practice of libidinous celibacy. At first the juxtaposition of those two words would appear to be paradoxical, but I know from personal experience that such is not the case. A libidinous person may be someone who has lustful thoughts or is otherwise preoccupied with the drives of the libido…without necessarily acting upon them with a partner. Few adults can abstain from sexual intercourse (ie, be celibate) and not experience rising frustration at the sublimation of such a primitive and instinctual biological…

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Girl Toy – A Sybian Story

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Girl Toy – A Sybian Story

Silken on Sex #63: She’d married straight out of college and divorced shortly before her thirtieth birthday. She readily admitted that she’d married him because she thought he was great in bed. And he was… then.  But at 30 he was trying to fuck like he was still 20, and well, he couldn’t pull it off.  When they were younger she forgave him his first quickie orgasm because she knew he’d be getting it up again soon, and it took him longer to get off the second and third times — and that gave her the time she needed. But as he got older and his virility waned, his interest in pleasing her waned as well. She couldn’t interest him in learning new tricks to meet the growing divide between his satisfaction and hers, and so she left him. She’d thought that the period of sexual exploration that followed was…

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It is getting harder for me to cum. Help?

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It is getting harder for me to cum. Help?

Q: Dear Silkenvoice: As I’ve gotten older my sexual needs have become more and more specific. I can only cum if the circumstances are just-so (I have a fetish). I can rarely cum when my wife and I have sex and she is taking it personally. Is there something wrong with me? What can I do? –Paul. PS: I love your voice. Do you do custom stories? A: Paul, I don’t think there is anything wrong with you. If you ever listen to Dan Savage, he cautions against what he calls the “death grip” during masturbation. He speaks to the vanilla community for the most part, but his words are applicable to practitioners of kinky/fetish sexuality as well. What does be mean by “death grip” masturbation? Finding what works and never deviating from it. Males discover at rather young ages that if they touch themselves in a certain way, it…

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Silken’s Sybian Ride

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Silken’s Sybian Ride

Silken on Sex #60: In this episode, Silken walks her listeners through the pleasure of a ride on her Sybian. This is an actual recording of an orgasmic sybian experience with an essay voiceover. Silken recorded two other rides on her sybian,  one without voiceover–unless you consider gasps and moans and whimpers to be “voiceover.” You can find Sybian Ride on her SilkenOnSex.com website under the “masturbation” category for just $5. The other erotic audio featuring Silken on a Sybian is called “Pushed: A Sybian Ride” and it is available on both Amazon and iTunes as part of her AudioSensual Erotic Shorts album.

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Tantric Meditation – Morning Orgasms

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Tantric Meditation – Morning Orgasms

Morning after a night of erotic dreams. Awakening to feeling sexually charged, keyed. Feeling the erotic energy trapped between my hips. It is early. I have time to meditate, to masturbate, to have my morning orgasm. Arising from my bed. The world is still asleep. Silence. Its almost tangible. It lays over my ears like an amplifier. Every creak, every squirrel chitter, every bird twitter, is audible, even from inside. Coffee. Micro-roasted, the ‘Fat Albert’ blend. The scent is amazing, the taste as amazing as the scent, its flavor moderated with a dollop of heavy cream. Real cream. It is moist outside. The air caresses my skin, masking my face in cool mist. So refreshing and invigorating. Green. So many shades of green. The guest from England said we have more shades of green here even than in the British Isles. The daffodils and tulips are blooming. The bamboo is…

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Anal sex: Doing it the right way

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Anal sex: Doing it the right way

Q: I tried anal sex with my wife. Once. Apparently we didn’t know what we were doing but based on some things you’ve said in your stories, it can be intensely pleasurable and we’d like to experience that. So, what is the right way to go about it? A: I started with anal sex around age 19 or 20. The reason? My boyfriend at the time was too long for me. Weird, eh? I have a retroverted uterus, and I can put a finger inside me and feel my cervix right there, so you can imagine, I just don’t have a lot of room. Bleeding after vigorous vaginal sex is not uncommon. So… I decided to try anal. And loved it. Over the years I’ve learned some things I am happy to pass along: Prepare with foreplay. Stimulate that spot with a finger or even a bullet vibe. Put a…

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