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Silken has been asked a lot of questions regarding erotica, sexuality, intimacy and relationships since she went public with her passion in 2005. If you have a question or advice you’d like to ask, please leave a comment or send an email to the Contact address below.

Where in the world is Silkenvoice?

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Where in the world is Silkenvoice?

I’ve been getting emails from people asking why I haven’t been posting new content to my site and my podcast, hoping I’ve not left all this behind me and moved on. No worries! I haven’t forgotten my readers, my listeners, or my passion for telling naughty stories — I’ve just been side-tracked by life. This year I’ve buried my father’s brother and watched my youngest sister’s decline from cancer. It has been simultaneously difficult and rewarding, dealing with terminal illness, but more than anything, it is all-consuming. Most of my energy has been dedicated to helping my family (and myself) through this difficult time. On the good-news side of the spectrum, my short story “Internet Cafe Au Lay” was just published in Violet Blue’s Sweet Confessions: Erotic Fantasies for Couples anthology, which you can find on Amazon. Another story of mine “Cherry Blossom” has been accepted for publication in Rachel Kramer…

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Q: Is my fantasy unhealthy?

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Q: Is my fantasy unhealthy?

I received an email from a listener today and I thought I’d share it because this gentleman isn’t as alone as he thinks and I see this as a great opportunity to address a topic that creates a lot of ambivalence and shame in people: The problem is I’ve become obsessed with the idea of ‘forced orgasm’ and rape and I dont know if I should hate myself for it.  I understand that such fantasies are acceptable in women because they are actually still in control so its not a breach of their consent.  But I wondered if it was ok for men to have these fantasies – given that from a male perspective, consent is imagined to be denied. Is it worse for men to have these fantasies than women? Should I try to focus on more healthy fantasies? My response to him was: This is a very controversial…

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What is orgasm like for women?

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Silken on Sex #76: Midori, sex-educator extraordinaire, has put out a call stating that she wants Women’s Words on their Orgasms. So I sent her mine. When I become aroused I start with a feeling of warmth of increasing languidness I can feel my skin flushing feel the flush of heat inside me feel the flutter of muscles inside me feel the juices beginning to flow from inside me As my arousal heightens my breathing quickens my skin pebbles my nipples harden the skin of my breasts tightens my clit twitches my inner muscles clench which sends more pleasure signals waves of gooseflesh nipples ache and fluids seep from inside me When I am ready to orgasm my body tightens every muscle hums like the string of a bow pulled back pulled back farther my nerves scream with built-up orgasmic energy my nipples and clit pulse with every beat of…

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Q: “You want sex? Now??”

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Q: “You want sex? Now??”

The more stressed I am, the more I want sex. Want it to the point where I can find repeated statements in my journal to the effect that I felt I needed sex. Not comfort, not conversation, not food, not sleep. Sex. Which many people I know consider rather strange. “How can you want sex at a time like this?” is a question I was asked recently, and not for the first time. I’ve noticed a correlation between my drive for sex and my exposure to stress, especially that very un-sexy form of stress relating to death and dying. Given that in the past three years there have been five cancer diagnoses, two non-cancer related catastrophic illnesses, two deaths, and one impending death in my family, as well as my tendency to write down my thoughts and experiences, I’ve got a wealth of anecdotal material chronicling my responses to this…

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Q: Does your face match the Silken Voice?

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Q: Does your face match the Silken Voice?

This feedback was sent by: Anonymous Q: Does your face match the Silken Voice? Does your quick intellect match the hint of impatience in your stories? What are the colors of your spirit and passion and mind? Does writing soothe the wounds from the slings and arrows of this life? The reader cannot help but wonder Who you are and Where you are going. To your first question I say: Alas, no. Would it be fair if I had face to launch a thousand ships in addition to a voice that can harden a thousand cocks a libido strong enough to enchant a thousand men an intellect sharper than a thousand blades and Sheherazade’s capacity for a thousand and one stories? I am what I am plain of face neither beautiful nor ugly. I prefer it that way. Beauty has its price and there are those who pay for it…

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Talking Dirty – Homemade erotic audio

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Talking Dirty – Homemade erotic audio

Silken on Sex #73: Q: Dear Silkenvoice, my husband has to travel a lot for work, sometimes even out of the country, and I know he gets lonely–and horny. I know he charges porn and phone sex to his card and I’m mostly ok with it because I know he needs the release, and some of it he shares with me. Like your stuff. After listening to your stories I was thinking maybe I could record something naughty for him to listen to but I don’t know where to begin. Do you have any ideas? –Deena in FL. A: Deena, first I’d like to acknowledge your reasonableness about your husband using porn and phone sex when he’s away from home. A lot of women tend to feel threatened by this, and use anger over the expense of such outlets to hide from their true feelings. So good for you. Secondly,…

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Are you synesthetic?

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Are you synesthetic?

Image via Wikipedia Q: Dear Silkenvoice, I like listening to your podcasts and stories because your voice changes colors when I listen. Most recorded voices don’t. I know that sounds weird, but when I hear sounds, especially music and voices, I also see colors. The few people I’ve told about this think I’m making it up. Based on some of the things you say and the way you say them I am wondering if you are synesthetic, too? –Alan. A: Always nice to meet a fellow synesthete, Alan. Supposedly 1 in 25 people experience a kind of sensory cross-linkage in which stimulating one sense also evokes another.  I’m not surprised that those you’ve told about it thought you were making it up. There really isn’t a vocabulary to describe seeing sounds or flavors as color,  when you’re sober ;) To most people it sounds like an acid trip, and since…

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When A Fetish Takes Over

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When A Fetish Takes Over

Silken on Sex #61: In this episode, Silken answers a question from one of her listeners, Paul, who asked for help in dealing with a fetish that has taken over his sexuality, making it difficult for him to climax during sex with his wife. If you have questions for Kayar Silkenvoice, you can email ask@silkenvoice.com or send feedback to feedback@silkenvoice.com

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