Relationships

In this episode, Silken gives voice to the ages old difficulty between the sexes: the different arousal rates for men and women and the duration of excitement. Women have a near-infinite capacity for pleasure, and yet this boundlessness is rarely tapped. In this first part of a two part segment on Opening the Gate...
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“Why is it so difficult for me to get my O when I’m with my lover?” An online friend asked me almost despairingly. Which got me thinking. In many ways, one could say that a woman’s sensual energy is boundless, and that when she readies herself for her lover she opens a gate to...
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In this episode, Silken describes a conversation with one of her intimate friends, a friend who tells her that when he is with her he feels loved in a way he’s never felt before. What ensues is a discussion about the different ways we treat love, be it romantic, platonic, or filial, and the...
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Simplicity is so complicated. How difficult to shed the shackles of modern life, the drives, the assumptions, the things that cling, us to them, them to us. Simplicity is. The simplicity of my nipples, hard and long, when he is near, or when he is not, when it is the scent of him on...
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Why do you fear being known? I ask when he says I know him too well that echoing well deeper than his voice He does not want to be predictable, dull, uninteresting But it is deeper than that I know the fear of being known is fear of intimacy I know I know this...
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I am sipping coffee from a french press, a strong, dark roast whose beans, when ground, scented two rooms. When brewed, the smell wafted up the stairs. I could smell it while I was showering. I showered late, partly out of laziness, and partly out of reluctance to wash away the reminders of last...
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In this episode, Silken describes a moment of spiritual and sexual union between herself and her lover after 6 weeks apart. “…It had been 6 weeks since I’d felt him moving inside me, and as always, that first time it was difficult to fit him in. Even kneeling astride, juicy with longing, my weight...
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