Happiness

The more stressed I am, the more I want sex. Want it to the point where I can find repeated statements in my journal to the effect that I felt I needed sex. Not comfort, not conversation, not food, not sleep. Sex. Which many people I know consider rather strange. “How can you want...
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Silken on Sex #66: Celibacy has been in the news lately, and I don’t just mean the pious form of celibacy. I’m talking grown women and men choosing celibacy as a form of their sexual self-expression. Yes, that’s right: Celibacy is a form of sexual self-expression — it is possible to be celibate without...
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Q: Lately I’ve been struggling with monogomy. My partner is a good man and a considerate lover, but sometimes I want to be with a woman, to enjoy a relationship with a woman. Is it wrong to want a mistress? A: Not at all. One of the fallacies we are socialized to accept as...
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In this episode, Silken gives voice to the ages old difficulty between the sexes: the different arousal rates for men and women and the duration of excitement. Women have a near-infinite capacity for pleasure, and yet this boundlessness is rarely tapped. In this first part of a two part segment on Opening the Gate...
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And so ends a year that was both the worst and the best in my life so far. Three cancer diagnoses, two deaths, surgeries, illnesses, and a near-death experience for me — in ways it felt as though we were the Children of Job, a family cursed. For the most part, we chose not...
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Possessiveness, territoriality, the hoarding mentality — those things have always been so difficult for me to handle in loving relationships. When I was a child, I learned that the harder I tried to hold onto something I feared losing, the more of a certainty that fear became. So I simultaneously arrived at two things:...
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