Gender Politics

I received an email from a listener today and I thought I’d share it because this gentleman isn’t as alone as he thinks and I see this as a great opportunity to address a topic that creates a lot of ambivalence and shame in people: The problem is I’ve become obsessed with the idea...
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I’ve been reading “The Bitch in the House” edited by Cathi Hanauer. The subtitle of the book is: 26 Women Tell the Truth about Sex, Solitude, Work, Motherhood, and Marriage. The premise is women writing a response to the question “Why are women angry?” Cathy woke up one day and realized that she had...
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What a painful thing it is to realize that I live in a society that devalues friendship. Especially hetero-sexual friendship. Friendship is a source of love and acceptance and communion. And yet, women are encouraged to see other women as mere competitors, and men as potential providers and mates. And men, they are encouraged...
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My friends Amy and Boris are having marital problems, mainly around their sex-life. Interestingly enough, Boris is the one who came to me about it, instead of Amy. When asked, he described a pattern of formulaic sex that had dwindled to a once-a-month frequency, at best. He said he’d tried talking to her, had...
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I wear skirts when I travel. I generally wear skirts regardless of whether I am flying or driving, and except in cases of deep snow, regardless of the weather. Most women I know think I’m nuts. But I have my reasons, good reasons. Skirts are comfortable. They are unrestrictive, allowing a full range of...
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In this episode, Silken gives voice to the ages old difficulty between the sexes: the different arousal rates for men and women and the duration of excitement. Women have a near-infinite capacity for pleasure, and yet this boundlessness is rarely tapped. In this second part of a two part segment on Opening the Gate...
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In this episode, Silken gives voice to the ages old difficulty between the sexes: the different arousal rates for men and women and the duration of excitement. Women have a near-infinite capacity for pleasure, and yet this boundlessness is rarely tapped. In this first part of a two part segment on Opening the Gate...
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Image by xjyxjy via Flickr It is my assessment that men fear women. They fear women because they do not understand us. Feminine logic escapes them and so they cannot predict us. They fear us because no matter how often they join their bodies with ours, seeking to know and be known — no...
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